The Best Déjà Vu.

This weekend, my oldest and dearest friend of all, Kathy, came to visit for too short of a period, but such a sweet visit it was. Lovely Sarah, her adult daughter came with her. Unlike what Kathy says, I was not around for Sarah’s conception! Kathy misspeaks in the most provocative ways. I was, however, there for Sarah’s birth, which I have to admit scared me a bit about babies for some time. I did get over that, fortunately, and Sarah and my son have been special, life-long friends.

Kathy, Sarah, and I went for a carriage ride at the Silver Saddle Ranch with my pony, Casanova. Sarah is very intuitive with horses and was a great help putting to. After driving for a while, explaining what I was doing and why I was doing it, I handed the reins over to Sarah. Casanova listened to the new driver intently and behaved well for her. Sarah drove like she had always been meant to, making some circles and figure eights, sort of, and then heading down the road. It was obvious. She was on fire about a new way to experience horses.

It was a thrill to see someone experience what I had when I first drove a horse. I wish I had let her drive more, but I am very covetous of my driving time. Perhaps this is something that we all should be doing: letting go and handing the reins over to young’uns. Sharing the experience is so satisfying. It is living the best of life over again. Doesn’t get any better than that.

~Z

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A Generational Connection?

Our not so distant past.

The experience of driving a horse as a young girl was intensely memorable for me. What is it about horses and carriage driving that hooks you in? Perhaps it is a connection to the genes of generations that we all carry with us. There are increasing discoveries that the experiences of our individual ancestors affect our lives in surprising ways.

Having a horse was not an option for me as a child. My parents were afraid for my safety. If only they knew how I put myself at risk to sneak into pastures with friends and ride whatever horse we could hop on before they bolted. How we clung to their backs and necks for a breathless thrill until we dropped into the tall grass! Then there were the horse owners that let us hang out at their farms, encouraging us to bounce around on their green broke horses and watched our wild rides with laughter that was not always sympathetic.

The years go by so quickly. In rapid succession I left home, went to college, got married, had a child, got divorced, struggled to get by, and suffered many broken hearts until that primal pull brought me back to my first love.

~Z

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My First Drive

The back end of a horse never looked so good.

Was my first drive my first love? It was at an Ozark Mountain summer camp, Camp Don Bosco for Girls. I was eleven or so years old. A handsome young man, likely in his late teens, brought a horse and cart for a session of driving. The other girls in my group swooned over the opportunity to sit beside the cute guy with the flat top hair and an easy smile. I, however, was fixated with the chance to drive. As the youngest and most shy girl in the gaggle, I endured the delay while all the giggly camp mates took their turns at the reins, which were frequently snatched away by the increasingly frustrated instructor.

He seemed relieved that I was the last one to drive as he showed me how to hold the lines. We took a few strides at a walk, and then I impulsively clucked for a trot. I transformed into a confident schoolmarm in a western TV show headed toward town on a mission of great importance. Letting loose of his reactive grip of the rein rail, the instructor settled back as random shadows and patches of sunlight rushed by us. I remember the metronome clomp of hoof beats, the magic feel of the horse’s mouth through the long leather reins, and the heavy Missouri air breezing past my face and lofting my hair in a stream behind me.

As we approached the camp’s fenced corner, the young man leaned toward me and told me how to handle the turn. Doing exactly what he said, I still recall how good I felt when he asked me if I had really never driven before. We kept going much longer than the other girls had, circling and turning around the grounds several times. The power of the experience was unforgettable. When we came to a lazy halt, the wad of awaiting campers hid behind their hands as they snickered and whispered. I was disappointed not to hear any accolades for doing well, and was embarrassed to be teased that me and the boy with the horse and the cart were in love. How silly and mistaken they were. Couldn’t they see? I was in love with driving!

~Z

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